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Is Food Our Only Connection to People?



Food, snacks, bits, treats, morsels, bites and tastes. Grocery stores, cafés, resto’s, food trucks, snack shacks and more. There is such an abundance of food and eating occasions all around us that it may feel impossible at times to escape it all.


And ladies, what about the events? The celebrations, reunions, movies, slumber parties, cozy breakfasts in bed and sexy date nights out?


I used to feel like I had to hide or escape from food and gatherings because I didn’t trust myself around it all. Those thoughts and fears used to run through my head until I did the work around my out-of-order-eating. Food used to rule the thoughts and actions in my day; and once I flipped that script, I began to lead my life with food as just the essential piece in my day.

The piece that keeps my body fuelled, not entertained.


Food is often the main event at social gatherings. I found that I really needed to change the way I viewed that in order to regain personal empowerment around my eating boundaries. The non-value based belief was that eating is how I connected with people and how I felt included. Hardly a stable connection. In order for me to respect my body’s internal boundaries, it was necessary for me to change that belief.


It was important for me to realize that food is a lovely part of our lives; however, it is certainly not a true connection to the people around us.


So, when we change our eating habits, we must change the way we connect with others. For so many of us, our families and society as a whole, food is the center of our attention.



The Family That Eats Together... Stays Together?


I never really noticed this until a dear friend brought it to my attention years ago - that my family eats A LOT! She was with me at a family bridal shower where, of course, there was a impressive spread of drinks and food. I mean, multiple tables filled with fabulous appetizers - sweet, savory, hot, cold; basically food porn! A wonderful afternoon spent with friends and family, old and new. Mingling, giggling, sharing stories of love, dreams and words of encouragement. A truly delightful way to engage with the people around us, (drinks and plates in hand of course).


As the party was wrapping up, my friend heard one of my family members say, ‘O.k. Now, where shall we go eat?’ Said friend looks at me, eyes wide open and says, ‘Whoa, your family eats A LOT!’ It never occurred to me, but yes, I guess so. Most everything is turned into an eating occasion with us.


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